To Cry or Decry

Polar Parenting – Schmid Inc.

The upbringing you blindly condemn,

you inadvertently mimic,

issuing from your inner self

that you struggle to escape.


An upbringing with hurts and joys,

a disarray of jigsaw pieces

struggling to portray fulfillment and joy,

taking a lifetime to rejig.


Giddiness the mask for pain,

searching for the warmth of connection

weighed down by self doubt,

seeking clarity in one’s life, one’s self.


Overlooking the subtle nuances

of a maturing self that struggle to emerge,

blinded by a panorama of dismay,

while searching to glimpse a ray of hope.

Polar Parenting (partial image) – Schmid Inc.

Author: Jasper Hoogendam

After 36 years as an educator my career ended due to a TBI. Renewable energy as part of 'walking lightly on this earth' has been and continues to be my interest since my teen years. Since early 2015 I have been learning to live with ABI (Acquire Brain Injury). I don't want to let my ABI limit the goals I set for myself. I'm living with a different brain, not a lesser brain. In sharing my day to day successes and struggles, I am better able to understand how my life had changed and begin to accept the change. In sharing my experiences I'm hearing from caregivers and fellow ABI's. I'm encouraged when my experiences are helping others understand some of the complexity of living with ABI.

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