The behaviour upsets you,
the person exercises power over you,
intentionally makes your life miserable.
You have tagged the behaviour.
You have labeled it a disability.
The person doesn’t recognize their handicap.
You have blamed, you have denigrated.
The delusion of amateur assessment.
You have resisted all entreaties.
The person has asked for understanding.
You remain resolved in your actions,
the delusion of uninformed actions.
The behaviours we so vehemently criticize,
in our self-delusion we inadvertently imitate.
The character flaws we perceive in others,
so cruelly blinds us to our flaws
Oh the cruelty of genetic templates,
blending the nature and nurture of our formed selves.
The change we want is within our reach,
the change we need is beyond our ability to see.
You have devised a rigid plan,
of setting an arbitrary boundary,
one troubled behaviour replacing another.
Entering the path of self delusion.
When grace is most needed it eludes us.
How do we find grace? Where to find grace?
Moving from criticizing a person’s behaviour,
to examining and opening our own heart.