“The course of true love never did run smooth”

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In the Presence of the Esteemed Bard
(*) A Midsummer Night’s Dream – Act 1, Scene 2

A Mile or More Made Manageable

In the past year I have needed help

And it has fallen on you.

The additional energy you have needed

The patience you have mustered.

 

In the past year I have needed understanding

And it has fallen on you.

The added vigilance you have shown

Protecting me in my limitations.

 

In the past year I have needed advocacy

And it has fallen on you.

Clearing the way to appease my limitations

Securing concessions to ease the demands on me.

 

In the past year I have needed encouragement

And it has fallen on you.

Carrying me through frustrating times

Providing companionship when isolation loomed.

 

In the past year I have needed protecting

And it has fallen on you.

Cautioning me when I failed to see risk

Not wanting to stifle my urge to strive forward.

 

In the past year I have slowed you down

trimming your plans to my limitations

waiting, hoping, longing, anticipating

You unable to predict my vague timeline

 

In the past year you have given generously

Even when I could not reciprocate

Even when words of appreciation escaped me

Even when my setback alarmed you

 

When you could have given up

You persisted, living your love in action

Unconditional, unrelenting, uncompromising.

My treasure, my gem.

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Author: Jasper Hoogendam

After 36 years as an educator my career ended due to a TBI. Renewable energy as part of 'walking lightly on this earth' has been and continues to be my interest since my teen years. Since early 2015 I have been learning to live with ABI (Acquire Brain Injury). I don't want to let my ABI limit the goals I set for myself. I'm living with a different brain, not a lesser brain. In sharing my day to day successes and struggles, I am better able to understand how my life had changed and begin to accept the change. In sharing my experiences I'm hearing from caregivers and fellow ABI's. I'm encouraged when my experiences are helping others understand some of the complexity of living with ABI.

8 thoughts on ““The course of true love never did run smooth””

  1. You are fortunate in this sense . For me no wife, no brothers or sisters, living in a new city with no close friends, only a son and daughter that are very limited in ability to give me help or support and sole caretaker of my 93 year old father. Real love and a marriage(twice divorced and thanking God) were not in the cards for me. I am often afraid. But it seems I do wake up every morning and am resolving challenges.

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    1. Wow, a father who is 93. I imagine that what you are able to savour of that also comes with it’s demands. The past two years has deepened my appreciation of family and of the community that I have been an active part of for the past 30 years.

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